Damned if you do.

Question: is it ever ok to talk to or sleep with your friend's ex? No? Yes? Is the world so small to think that you can't go outside of the small box of your existence to date someone a friend of yours hasn't dated? Is the world so small to think that you can't get over your friend having a little bedroom fun with someone you've shared intimate moments with as well?

I have a group of friends. A subject that's been rather taboo is; "who's piece is off limits, when is said piece declared off limits and WHY is said piece off limits"? Whether the subject be taboo or not, it's no secret that actions have occurred that have warranted the question being raised. Everyone has their line of disrespect to be crossed with fair warning, but no one will willingly draw this line in the sand for all others to adhere.

Who's piece is off limits? The most obvious answer to this question in my case is anyone my friends have talked to. Now, I don't ask what goes on behind closed doors (God, only knows how much I don't want to know), but from time-to-time we (my friends and i) get excited, tipsy, high off the sauce (as you may) and proceed to display all we do for whatever intensive purpose it may serve at the time to others in the group. Certain things aren't "company conversation" (not for outside parties) of course so these things are said in strict confidence. However, from listening to each person I ally myself with and cut for I can tell who they care for and who they don't hence, I know where a problem will lie if I were to even so much as associate myself with that person. Now, I'm no professor of sociology and I failed college psychology twice, but I damn well know when a friend of mine likes someone more than they let on. Clearly to my uneducated and lack of human behavioral trained mind, I should more than likely stay away from that person if I don't want problems with my friend. With that said in my opinion to stay on the safe side; anyone mentioned is off limits.

When is said piece declared off limits? To be on the safe side I'd say the moment your friend brings them to an outing, mentions their name or introduces you to them. It'd be pointless for you to meet the person through your friend then do THE SAME THING (introduce them, bring them to an outing or mention their name). I'd think that in friendship you have respect and love for the person so you'd want to take that all the way. Don't slack off because you've come across some potentially good d*ck or p*ssy. When that good d*ck or p*ssy has gone or given you VD; that friend you screwed over to get it will still be there (or you'll be wishing they were) to talk you off the ledge.

WHY is said piece off limits? Now, this is where it gets tricky. If you didn't adhere to the first suggestion or the second then you may as well skip this paragraph because you've already fucked up I'm sure. I mean, if you made it this far and you haven't stopped to think about your situation and already solved it well, that person isn't your friend. So, why is said piece off limits? Well, would you want someone to do it to you? Karma pays all dues and most likely what you do to someone will practically KILL you because you'll be so careful as to protect yourself from it (not to mention overtly paranoid when it comes to that subject), but it'll happen anyway; in most cases, 10 times worse. Why go through that?

In conclusion (I hate that), I'd just like to say; it isn't worth it. The world is big enough for you not to have to date, talk to, sleep with or romp the same people as your friends. Have some respect for yourself and them because it's bad business. On the other hand if you didn't know that's a different story, etc, etc. G'nite.